The late James Gandolfini wasn’t always the hulking, balding man the world came to know as Tony Soprano. Long before he became the face of one of television’s most iconic antiheroes, he was a charming, popular teenager in New Jersey—voted both “best looking” and “biggest flirt” in high school—who had no idea how large a shadow his future career would cast.
Born on September 18, 1961, in Westwood, New Jersey, Gandolfini grew up in a working-class Italian American family. His father was the building maintenance chief at a Catholic school, and his mother worked as a high school lunch lady. Friends from those years remember him as a “happy, cute little boy” who carried himself with a quiet confidence that drew people in long before any casting director knew his name.

By the time he reached his senior year at Park Ridge High School in 1979, the young man—already standing over six feet tall—was one of the most popular students. He excelled in both academics and extracurricular activities and began to explore acting through the school’s theatre program. That was also around the time he crossed paths, indirectly, with another New Jersey star: John Travolta. Travolta later recalled that his father owned a tire shop Gandolfini’s father frequented. “My father sold tires to his father,” Travolta said after Gandolfini’s death. “I was his inspiration to get into the business… He would see pictures of me on the wall from movies and he decided that he wanted to be an actor.”