Raising kids while caring for aging parents is overwhelming for many. One reader, Nancy, shared her story of setting boundaries—and the fallout that followed. Nancy, 35 and a single mom of three, had been caring for her 74-year-old mother, who lived with them rent-free and once helped with the kids.After a serious fall left her mother unable to assist, Nancy offered continued care—if she was paid for her time. Her mother refused, saying, “I’m your mom—you owe me!”
2) I Refused to Be My Mom’s Free Nurse — But She Flipped the Script
That night, her mother called a nursing home to pick her up and sent movers to take her belongings—furniture, gifts, even Nancy’s baby’s crib. She accused Nancy of being ungrateful. Nancy insists she wasn’t being cruel—just realistic. “I’m not a nurse,” she wrote. “Love doesn’t pay bills.”