My life in Columbus Ohio felt complete as a stay at home mother on maternity leave with my three month old daughter Hailey. My husband Liam and I had been married for two years but his behavior changed after our baby was born. He began working late shifts at his downtown corporate office almost every night. One afternoon I called him simply to ask if he would be home for dinner. He answered with extreme irritation complaining that I was checking up on him during his workday. I expressed my love and thought our conversation had ended but he failed to press the end button. While Hailey slept peacefully in her crib I noticed the call timer was still running on my phone. Before I could hang up I heard a woman laughing softly through the speaker. I stood completely frozen as I listened to Liam complain to this unseen woman about how my constant pictures of our daughter were driving him insane.
With a steady voice I explained exactly what had happened six days earlier when Liam forgot to end our phone call. I described hearing the other woman and his cruel complaints about our baby followed by his promise to divorce me. As my husband turned pale the entire dining room fell into a suffocating silence. He desperately tried to claim he was simply venting his stress but I immediately pulled out our prenuptial agreement and financial records for everyone to see.
We discussed her pediatrician appointments and feeding schedules without letting anger cloud our judgment always putting her well being first. One morning as I sat at my parents kitchen counter drinking coffee I wrote down a simple list of chores for the day. At the very bottom of the page I added a reminder to do something just for myself realizing that I had spent months sacrificing my identity for a husband who did not value me. I still do not know exactly what my long term future holds but I know I will never again allow another person to dictate my life through deception. By choosing radical honesty over silent endurance I took full control of my destiny.
