The first time I saw my mother in five years, she had both hands locked around my father’s forearm so tightly her fingers left bruises. We were in the trauma waiting room at Mercyrest Medical Center, fluorescent lights humming, weather channel murmuring to nobody. An hour earlier, their only remaining daughter had been rushed through my emergency bay, unconscious and bleeding.
The trauma pager had called in the chief of surgery. That would be me. When I stepped through the double doors in my scrubs, badge hanging against my chest, my father stood up the way he always has, like being on his feet meant being in charge.
He got as far as “Doctor, how is my—” before his eyes dropped to the name on my ID. DR. IRENE ULETTE, MD, FACS
CHIEF OF TRAUMA SURGERY
His mouth stayed open, but the words never landed.
My mother’s gaze followed his, sliding from the laminate rectangle to my face and back again. Then she made this strangled sound, somewhere between a sob and a gasp, and clamped down on his arm like he was the only thing keeping her upright. That’s when the bruises happened.I kept my voice steady, the same tone I’ve used with a hundred other families in this exact room. “Mr. and Mrs.
Ulette, I’m Dr. Ulette. Your daughter Monica sustained a ruptured spleen and a significant liver injury.
We took her to the OR. The surgery went well. She’s stable in the ICU.
You’ll be able to see her in about an hour.”
Mr. and Mrs. Not Mom.
Not Dad. Five years earlier, those two had decided their younger daughter no longer existed. ——
My name is Irene Ulette, and I’m thirty‑two years old.
For five years, my parents believed I had dropped out of medical school and thrown my life away. They believed I’d run off with some nameless boyfriend, burned through my tuition, and disappeared. They believed that because my sister told them so.It started the way these things usually do in our family: at the kitchen table. If you’ve never been to Hartford, Connecticut in the fall, picture this: maple trees on fire in red and orange, wet leaves clogging the storm drains, and every parent in our middle‑class neighborhood raking their yards in the same brand of fleece, waving politely from identical driveways. That’s where I grew up.
Split‑level house, vinyl siding, two daughters. Only one of us really counted. Monica, my sister, is three years older.