I spent years being talked down to while quietly keeping our home and family running. From the outside, we looked like a picture-perfect family. Inside, I was disappearing piece by piece. It wasn’t until something happened that put me in the hospital that my husband finally noticed something was wrong.
I’m 36 now. Tyler is 38. We have two young boys, a comfortable apartment, a neat lawn, and the kind of life people like to call “the dream.” Tyler works as a lead developer at a gaming studio and makes more than enough money, which meant I stayed home with the kids. To most people, that sounded easy. To me, it felt like suffocating.
Tyler never hit me. That’s what I told myself for years, as if it somehow made the rest acceptable. But his words were sharp and relentless, delivered with a precision that cut deeper than yelling ever could. Every morning started with a complaint. Every night ended with a jab. Somehow, no matter how much I did, it was never enough.Laundry not folded fast enough. Dinner not hot enough. Toys left out for five minutes too long.
His favorite insult always came back to the same thing.
“Other women work and raise kids. You? You can’t even keep my lucky shirt clean.”
That shirt. A white dress shirt with navy trim. He treated it like a sacred object. If it wasn’t washed, pressed, and hanging exactly where he expected, I was suddenly incompetent, lazy, useless.Because love can break and still exist. It can hurt and heal and leave scars behind. And sometimes those scars are reminders—not of what we lost, but of what it cost to survive.