After being spotted smiling and even laughing at recent appearances, some critics accused her of “moving on too fast.” Now, the 30-year-old mother of two is setting the record straight — revealing what grief really looks like behind the headlines.

“There’s no blueprint for grief”

Charlie Kirk was shot and killed on September 10 during an event at a Utah university. The attack triggered a massive 33-hour manhunt, ending with the arrest of 22-year-old Tyler Robinson, who faces multiple felony charges including aggravated murder and obstruction of justice.
A memorial service held September 21 at State Farm Stadium in Arizona drew an estimated 100,000 people and featured tributes from Donald Trump, Vice President JD Vance, and a tearful speech from Erika. She alternated between laughter and tears while sharing stories of their life together.

But in the weeks since, her public composure — and moments of apparent joy — drew criticism, most notably from commentator Candace Owens, who questioned why Erika wasn’t demanding more answers about her husband’s killing.
Carrying Charlie forward

Erika explained that her smiles aren’t signs of denial but expressions of gratitude — moments when memories of Charlie bring warmth instead of only pain.

“I carry my Charlie in every breath, in every ache, and in every quiet act of day-to-day living as I attempt to relearn what that rhythm will be,” she said.